Have you thought about your healing gumption? Do you clearly understand the source of your grief? Recognizing with complete clarity the power of a grief happening and ways to find relief will help you gain new hope. There are powerful, often not realized, forces resulting from your grief experience. Learning the best steps, you can take, and that you must take to understand and heal from your grief is vital to your wellbeing. Discovering how to find relief and reconciliation is essential to healing from grief loss and sorrow. Healing from your grief requires gumption.
I don’t hear the word gumption used much today. However, when I was a child growing up my mother used it frequently. “I have got to muster up my gumption,” “I need more gumption this morning,” were expression she used regularly.
In the days and years ahead, you may suffer some discouragement and disappointment. Your grief and loss may cause you to experience deeper sorrow than you could ever imagine. On occasion you may feel genuine despair. Perhaps, though I hope not – you may worry that any chance to be happy and secure in life has eluded you forever. When such times come, I ask you to remember this: When times get toughest that is when healing from your grief requires gumption. Two synonyms for gumption are resourcefulness and initiative. Using your best initiative and being resourceful is another way of expressing and underscoring the gumption you need to take. Following are three valuable gumption steps to help you reconcile your grief, find happiness, more wholeness, and joy:
Gumption Step #1 – Determine how you will respond to your unique grief challenge. Take this step early rather than later.
“Our lives are defined not by the challenges we encounter but by how we respond to those challenges.”
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Can you see yourself responding to your grief with a little gumption here and a little initiative there, and a strong measure of resourcefulness every day? Healing and reconciling your sorrow, loss and grief can be a result of these gumption actions.
Gumption Step #2 – Consider first changing your inner life condition.
Don’t worry yourself about the circumstances of your grief.
“Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself.”
~ James Allen
Don’t get caught up in arguing your limitations even if your grief happening has resulted in some permanent disability.
“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.”
~ Richard Bach
Gumption steps require a little extra persistence and more effort. Then what seems a hopeless failure in the beginning of your grief experience may turnout to be a wonderful success.
Gumption Step # 3 – Control and eliminate all negative thoughts.
“It’s not the situation that’s causing your stress, it’s your thoughts,
and you can change that right here and now.
~ Gerald Jampolsky
So often the phrase that underscores the personal actions you must embrace and accept full responsibility for everything you have done, and have not done rings with clarity – “IF IT IS TO BE IT IS UP TO YOU,” highlights a critical personal understanding.
“Everyone who wills, can hear the inner voice. It is within everyone.”
~ Mohandas (Mahatma) Gandhi
Begin this process hearing your inner healing voice by eliminating all negative thoughts. Begin by doing away with all “I can’t” thoughts. Replace them with “I can” and “I will” thoughts.
Determine now how you will respond to your grief. Don’t let circumstance determine who and what you are. Eliminate all negative thoughts. Do away with the I can’t thoughts. Search inward for inspiration and more gumption. Attempting to overcome despair, as you look deeply within, you may discover more unique personal gumption than you thought!
“Vision stands on the shoulders of what is actual to get a better view of what is possible.”
~ Mary Anne Radmacher
Work with great energy to create your own vision of all possibilities available. Grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing from your unique grief, loss, and sorrow, and finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness.