When a relationship loses the crucial element of trust, it has basically lost everything of any real value. Once the trust is gone, the relationship becomes an empty shell of actions and words that mean very little to both people.
In the case of romantic or love relationships, the element of trust is essential. Things fall apart in the relationship almost immediately when the trust is lost between the two people.
One of the most common ways that the trust between two loving people starts to be lost is when one person breaks an important promise to another. And, while a single broken promise may not mean much in terms of the relationship, when the broken promises start piling up you can guarantee there will be trouble.
The only healthy path beyond broken promises is one of healing and reconciliation. Without the ability to heal in a relationship, you may as well give up and move on with your lives. It is that important.
If you are looking for healing after broken promises in a relationship, here are 5 steps you can take back to love:
1. Understand that the broken promises are not your own fault:
When your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner has broken an important promise to you on more than one occasion, understand that this is not your fault. Everybody is responsible for their own actions, and you should never feel guilty or take responsibility for something that you did not do.
2. Recognize your role in maintaining the overall health of the relationship:
At the same time, however, it is also important for you to recognize your role in the underlying problems that exist in your relationship. In other words: you have been a member of this relationship for some time. You need to take some level of responsibility for allowing things to sink to this level.
3. Write out how you are feeling right now:
Start your healing process by writing out exactly how you are feeling right this minute. Your emotions are the gateway to your soul. That is why it is so important to listen to how you really feel. Consider writing down your thoughts and emotions in a journal. Putting things down on paper is a great way to sort things out within yourself.
4. Think about how you want your relationship to be in the future:
Next, turn your attention to how you want things to develop in your relationship. Do you think it is best that the two of you stay together? If so, what would that look like? How can you get yourselves to that happy place of mutual trust and kept promises again?
5. Start a healing dialogue with your partner:
Now, it is time to start a healing dialogue with your partner. Choose your words carefully. Avoid making accusations at all costs. What you need to do is to focus on appreciating who they are and what you love about them. But, you also need to share frankly and openly how you feel when they break promises to you.
Take these 5 steps to healing in a love relationship after broken promises.